When Comparison Creeps In: The Three Areas I Struggle Most
Comparison doesn’t always show up as envy.
Sometimes, it shows up as shame.
As self-doubt.
As quiet questions like, “Why not me?”
I am human, and even with all the self-awareness and work I’ve done, comparison still sneaks in.
For me, it tends to show up in three places:
→ business
→ my body
→ and the journey to have a family
1. Business
I run a great business with my husband. I know that.
But when I see someone else scaling faster, making headlines, launching new programs, or “doing it all” - it can mess with my head.
I find myself questioning if I’m doing enough. If we should be moving quicker. Are we falling behind???
But what I’ve learned is this: growth that isn’t rooted in alignment isn’t actually success, it’s just busyness.
And I’d rather move more slowly and build something that supports my health, my values, and my long-term well-being.
2. My Body
This is a big one.
Living with a chronic illness like endometriosis means I experience bloating, pain, fatigue, inflammation—often with no warning.
I know my body is strong. I know what it’s overcome.
But that doesn’t mean I don’t look in the mirror some days and compare what I see to someone who isn’t fighting the same battle.
Especially online, where wellness is often equated with aesthetics, it’s easy to feel like I don’t “look” the part—even when I’m doing everything I can to support my health.
I’m learning that body confidence doesn’t come from perfection. It comes from compassion.
And strength doesn’t always look like a six-pack. Sometimes it looks like showing up through pain, choosing movement over stillness, or simply listening to what my body needs.
3. Motherhood
This one cuts the deepest.
Watching others announce pregnancies, celebrate baby milestones, or raise families while I navigate infertility and early menopausal symptoms is a grief that comparison makes even heavier.
I don’t resent them. But I do feel the ache.
The “Why them and not me?”
The wondering if I’ll ever get to experience what they seem to have so easily.
This one requires the most self-compassion. The most grace.
Because there’s no quick fix here. No clear timeline. No guaranteed outcome.
Just the daily practice of letting go, staying hopeful, and holding space for both joy and heartbreak.
What I’ve Learned
Comparison isn’t truth. It’s distortion.
It’s seeing someone’s edited highlight reel and forgetting they have hard days, too.
The more I compare, the more I disconnect from my own life - the one I’ve built with care, intention, and grit.
So here’s what I’m working on instead:
✨ Staying rooted in my values
✨ Celebrating progress over pace
✨ Practicing radical self-compassion
✨ Reminding myself: just because it looks easy for someone else doesn’t mean it is
If you’re struggling with comparison lately, I see you.
We’re not behind. We’re just living a different story.
And that story? It’s still unfolding. Let’s not rush the plot twist, shall we?!
